In today’s world, too many marriages are falling apart due to spiritual warfare wreaking havoc on the relationships between husbands and wives.  I personally am walking through this tragedy and firmly believe the demise of my marriage is a direct result of Satan’s lies and deception taking hold in the heart and mind of my soon to be ex-husband.  Despite my current circumstances, I continue to pray for him daily and others like us who are losing the relationship they valued most because we were not equipped with the right weapons to fight a supernatural war.


The covenant of marriage is a sacred, public vow between a man, a woman and God designed to last a lifetime.

Once taken, this vow should serve as a “no exit strategy” for both the husband and wife so that they can love freely and deeply without fear of rejection or abandonment.  In too many instances, insecurities and false beliefs from a person’s past keep them from fully loving themselves and incapable of loving others.  This is one of the core reasons that the idea of divorce should be discussed and taken off the table well before the “I do’s” have been said.

Biblically speaking, God hates divorce and this fact is noted in the scriptures below, as well as many others:

  • Matthew 19:6 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (NIV)
  • Malachi 2:16 16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
  • Hebrews 13:4 4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Any covenant, in particular, the covenant of marriage is a binding, weighty obligation. In Proverbs 20:25, we read, “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider his vows”(NIV).

“Marriage stands for the creation of unity among two people who were once separated in every way before love reached out and found the other—the way God reached out and found us, and covenanted with us, and loved us, and despite who we are, despite what we’re like, still loves us. This image, more than almost anything, is exactly what the enemy wants to denigrate.”  Priscilla Shirer, Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan to Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer



Priscilla Shirer, Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan to Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer

I pray that by sharing my experience and the lessons God is teaching me in the process, will create a greater awareness of the battle every marriage faces in a fallen world.  I believe that the sanctity of marriage is more at risk today than ever and as such, we need to “rise up like an army” and protect the people and commitments we value the most.


A personal journal entry from January 2014 noting how valuable the Bible had become to me and my relationship with Jesus.


Finding peace in dark circumstances can serve as a witness to others who don’t know Jesus

Top 10 Strategies Satan uses to create deception and destruction in our lives

taken from the book, Fervent by Priscilla Shirer

Strategy 1—Against Your Passion
He seeks to dim your whole desire for prayer, dull your interest in spiritual things, and downplay the potency of your most strategic weapons (Eph. 6:10–20).

Strategy 2—Against Your Focus
He disguises himself and manipulates your perspective so you end up focusing on the wrong culprit, directing your weapons at the wrong enemy (2 Cor. 11:14).

Strategy 3—Against Your Identity
He magnifies your insecurities, leading you to doubt what God says about you and to disregard what He’s given you (Eph. 1:17–19).

Strategy 4—Against Your Family
He wants to disintegrate your family, dividing your home, rendering it chaotic, restless, and unfruitful (Gen. 3:1–7).

Strategy 5—Against Your Confidence
He constantly reminds you of your past mistakes and bad choices, hoping to convince you that you’re under God’s judgment rather than under the blood (Rev. 12:10).

Strategy 6—Against Your Calling
He amplifies fear, worry, and anxiety until they’re the loudest voices in your head, causing you to deem the adventure of following God too risky to attempt (Josh. 14:8).

Strategy 7—Against Your Purity
He tries to tempt you toward certain sins, convincing you that you can tolerate them without risking consequence, knowing they’ll only wedge distance between you and God (Isa. 59:1–2).

Strategy 8—Against Your Rest and Contentment
He hopes to overload your life and schedule, pressuring you to constantly push beyond your limits, never feeling permission to say no (Deut. 5:15).

Strategy 9—Against Your Heart
He uses every opportunity to keep old wounds fresh in mind, knowing that anger and hurt and bitterness and unforgiveness will continue to roll the damage forward (Heb. 12:15).

Strategy 10—Against Your Relationships
He creates disruption and disunity within your circle of friends and within the shared community of the body of Christ (1 Tim. 2:8).”

Sending peace, love & happiness to all!


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