Are you a single girl, not yet married with a passion for Christ?  If you said yes, I beg you to listen to today’s podcast where I share the most valuable life lesson I have learned to date:

Before you say I do to him, make sure he says I do to Christ

You may have read the previous line halfheartedly so to make sure you grasp the critical nature of this statement, I am going to say it again:

  • If you are a woman with a passion for Christ
  • If you desire to live a life in accordance to His wishes for you
  • If you want to raise your children in a home that honors God…

then I beg you to make sure your potential husband not only has a passion for Christ but also, a personal daily relationship with Him. Otherwise, I can promise you, one or both of you are going to become distracted and disappointed at some point during your marriage.

Tomorrow marks the one month mark for “D-day”, the day I discovered the truth about my marriage. Over the course of the last 30 days, God has revealed many truths to me, the most important one being that we are all susceptible to spiritual warfare.


As a woman that passionately loves God and the personal relationship, he offers to me I now realize the importance of selecting a husband who also has a passion for Jesus. Otherwise, the daily challenges of life can wear down a man’s fleshly armor and activate his false beliefs about himself and the world around him. This is exactly the type of “fault line” the enemy is looking for! He is a master at disguise and he will pounce on the opportunity to manipulate your perspective causing you to unknowingly shift the focus to anything BUT the real issue.

He looks for the most convenient target:

  • Your spouse
  • Your past hurts and/or false beliefs
  • Your finances
  • Your friends
  • Your family

By doing this, he “blinds” you to the fact that He is the enemy, not the person or thing that gets blamed for the struggles you are facing. In a world where Satan is rarely regarded as a real, physical enemy, it’s much more plausible to blame someone or something that is tangible. Someone or something that you can not only see but also, engage conflict or fight against.


With many marriages, including my own, one or both of the parties can become complacent once the “I do’s” have been said and the pursuit of love is over. Sadly, this is where preoccupation with interests outside of your relationship with your wife and marriage cause you to overlook what is most important to you. Overlook what is right in front of you because you have shifted your focus to the wrong things. Over time what seems like small increments of compromise in your life, morals and values consume your thoughts and overshadow what is most important to you.  To learn more listen to today’s podcast by clicking the link at the top of this post.

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Sending peace, love & happiness to all!


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Artist/Writer/Blogger at SpaDelic, LLC
Hi, my name is Kelly. I am an artist, writer & Jesus girl with a passion for helping others discover and embrace their identity, value and confidence in Christ.
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